Monday, August 23, 2010

The best ways to deal with your teenagers

dealing with teenagersAdolescence, the period between childhood and adulthood, is often a difficult time, both for parents and their children.

This is when young people establish an identity of their own, separate themselves from their parents, and create significant relationships outside their own families.

Many parents experience 'mourning' for this loss of their child as they adjust to the moody, obstinate person who has taken his or her place. Teenagers may also be mourning the loss of their own childhood and family relationships of earlier years.

It is important to keep the situation in perspective. Adolescence is an essential rite of passage which every adult has been through. Think back to your own teenage years: How did you rebel? What were your clothes like? Did your parents complain about the music you listened to? In short, were your experiences, attitudes and relationships really that much different from what's taking place with your own adolescent?

Parents' major task is to let teenagers grow up and become independent, learning to make the decisions that affect their own lives.

Limits need to be set, but within those boundaries there must be room for adolescents to spread their wings and get a sense of who they are and who they want to become. They will reject some excellent advice along the way - but that's part of growing up. Fortunately, many of the values parents instilled prior to adolescence will survive.

Below are some basic rules for parents that can help minimize the inevitable stresses that occur as teenagers assert themselves.

listenAlways listen, even when you're on different sides of the fence.

Don't confuse the thing that bothers you with the person who has done it.

At times you'll feel annoyed and angry by your teenager's behavior. Every parent does. It doesn't mean you've stopped loving your youngster. It probably means exactly the opposite - that you care. Keep your anger focused on their actions, not on them as human beings.

Avoid constant criticism, no matter how much your teenagers' behavior or appearance annoys you.

Just ignore insignificant incidents. With bigger issues, let them know that although you disagree, you respect their right to hold a different opinion.

Look for opportunities to pay honest compliments.

kidsTake an interest in what your teenager is doing.

When disagreements arise, try to find a compromise both sides can accept. At worst, you should agree to disagree.

Don't preach and don't nag. Be careful about saying things like, 'When I was your age . . '. You probably had more in common with your teenager than you'd care to admit.

Expect to become the target of blame - the one responsible for all their difficulties, not letting them grow up and have fun.

Don't take most of this criticism to heart. And don't give up on your teenager. Teenagers are watching, listening and learning more than you may think.

Extreme mood swings are quite normal at this age. Partly due to hormonal changes but also in response to the anxieties so common during this time of life.

By late adolescence most teenagers feel much more comfortable spending time with their parents. If you've treated them fairly and consistently, and given them room to grow, they will leave adolescence and enter adulthood with family ties intact.

Remember that your teen won't remember their infancy or early childhood years but they will remember their teenage years. Do your best to cultivate warm memories that the both of you can appreciate down the road. And, to make the remembering a little easier, don't forget to take pictures!

Thursday, August 5, 2010

(Ginger Keeps Cancer Away) आलं खा - कँन्सरला दूर ठेवा

तिखट आल्याचा तुकडा खाऊन कँन्सरसारख्या असाध्य रोगापासून बचाव होऊ शकतो. असा फुकटचा सल्ला यापूर्वी जर कोणी दिला असता, तर दुर्लक्ष करायला हरकत नव्हती; पण हैद्राबादच्या 'नँशनल इंस्टिट्यूट ऑफ न्युट्रिशन' या संस्थेने आल्याचा वापर यावर संशोधन करून हे आता सिद्ध केलं आहे. या संस्थेतल्या संशोधकानी उंदरावर प्रयोग करुन हे निष्कर्ष काढले आहेत की, कँन्सरसारख्या असाध्य रोगाला आपण आल्यामुळे दूर ठेऊ शकतो.

पूर्वी खरं तर सर्दी-खोकला, पोटदुखी, मळमळ, नाँशिया, दातदुखी, अर्थ्राइंटिस, सूज अशा सर्व आजारावर औषध म्हणून आल्याचा वापर केला जायचा. आता या नवीन संशोधनाने हेही सिद्ध होतय की, सूज येऊ नये म्हणून वापरलं जाणार आलं कँन्सर होऊ नये, म्हणुनही गुणकारी आहे.

स्वयंपाकातून किंवा रोज नुसतं एक ते दिड ग्रँम आलं खाल्लं, तरी कँन्सर होण्याची शक्यता मावळते. या संस्थेचे उपाध्यक्ष आणि संशोधन संस्थेचे प्रमुख कल्पगम पोलासा यांच्या अंदाजानुसार शिजवल्यावर, तळल्यावर आल्याचे गुणधर्म नाहीसे होत नाहित. कारण हळद, लसूण, कांदा यावर त्यांनी प्रयोग केले आहेत. शिजविल्यावर, तळल्यावर त्यांच्या गुणधर्मावर परिणाम होत नसल्याचं इथल्या संशोधकानी सिद्ध केलं आहे. याच वर्गातील आल्याच्या बाबतीतही हे लागू पडतं, असं त्यांच मत आहे. जरी हे संशोधन प्राथमिक अवस्थेत असलं, तरी जगात इतरत्रही यावर मोठ्या प्रमाणात प्रयोग सुरु झालेत. अमेरिकेतल्या मिनिसोटा विद्दयापिठातील हाँर्मेल संस्थेनही गेल्यावर्षी त्यांचे आल्यावरच्या संशोधनाचे निष्कर्ष जाहिर केले. त्यातही असं म्हटलं आहे की, आल्याला चव देणारा जो गुणधर्म आहे त्यामुळेच मानवाच्या शरीरात कोलोरेक्युल कँन्सरपेशी वाढण्यास अटकाव होतो.

आल्याच्या वापराने कँन्सरला लांब ठेवणं शक्य आहे, पण कँन्सर झालेल्या रुग्णांचा कँन्सर आल्यामुळे जात नाही. मात्र त्याची वाढ होण्यातले धोके किंवा इतर पुढच्या धोक्यांची तीव्रता आल्याच्या वापराने कमी करता येऊ शकते असं श्री. पोलासा यांचं म्हणनं आहे.

अर्थात, हे झालं NIN संस्थेचं मत, संशोधन निष्कर्ष, पण क्लिनिकल न्युट्रिशन तद्न्य आणि टाटा मेमोरिअल सेंटरमध्ये काम करणारे डॉ. मोहनदास यांच्या मते मात्र बरेचदा प्राण्यावर प्रयोग यशस्वी होतात, पण मानवाच्या बाबतीत हे प्रयोग फसतात. त्यामुळेच हळद, आलं, लसूण यांना औषधरुपात स्विकारायची अजुनही डाँक्टरांची तयारी नाही.

वैद्दकिय क्षेत्रातला अंतर्गत वाद जाऊ दे, पण खरचं आलं गुणकारी असेल, तर कँन्सरसारख्या असाध्य रोगाला बाजुला ठेवणं किंवा त्याचं उच्चाट्न करणं सोपं जाणार आहे. आपल्या सगळ्यांसाठी एवढा दिलासाही पुरेसा आहे. आपलं काय मतं आहे?